Contemplation: Getting on with it...
Worrying about how everything will get done
or whether I am capable of doing it limits my ability to respond to challenges
considerably. The less I think about doing something and the faster I just get
on with it, the fewer problems I cause myself. Good planning is always helpful,
but time spent fretting and procrastinating is a major drain on my energy. The
more willing I am to respond positively to opportunities, the more my capacity
will grow.
It takes more energy to hate or hurt than
it does to forgive.
Forgiveness doesn't mean minimising, justifying or excusing the
wrong. Forgiveness is a powerful choice that helps you to release
your hurt feelings, move on and move forward.
Spiritual Vision
A simple definition of spiritual vision is that I see the best in others. A parameter of proving to myself that I have a spiritual vision and I am seeing the best in others is that I naturally thank and praise rather than criticize those with whom I interact at home or at the workplace on a daily basis - even though I may see obvious negative characteristics in them and experience negative behavior from them. Keep a daily chart of the three points, for three people close to you, below for one week. Every night, fill this chart up for the day that's just gone by.
1. Name of person and relationship
2. How did I thank or praise him/her?
3. What was this person's response?
Remember that although you may be constantly positive with others, constantly seeing their original spiritual qualities, it may take time for your positive energy to transform them and for them to start transmitting positive energy back to you and start behaving positively with you. At the end of the week, check what benefits did you and others experience from this exercise.
Soul Sustenance
Overcoming The Loss/Separation Of A Loved One (cont.)
In mourning, regret or remorse may emerge. Let's look at some feelings that are born in relation to these questions:
* Did I do everything I should have?
* Could I have avoided it?
* Did I tell them everything I had to tell them?
* Did I give them everything that they needed?
* Was I there when they needed me?
These questions converge into a feeling where sometimes one feels responsible for the death of the other. It is a mourning difficult to overcome. What is required is an inner control that does not allow these questions and their answers to go on for a long time. If we don't achieve this capacity we fall into a regret for what might have been and was not, and the present escapes before our very eyes.
Mourning in relation to the separation from someone with whom you have shared moments of beauty and wholeness, of love, requires an effort of peaceful acceptance. Not to remain trapped in feelings of guilt, bitterness or hate, given that these feelings take us in a past that is no longer alive except in our consciousness, because we don't allow it to die. The images and memories of experiences of the past emerge again and again onto the screen of the mind, causing different kinds of feelings that range from sadness to frustration.
Tomorrow we shall explain some simple ways to get over the loss of a loved one.
Message for the day
Words are effective when they are short and sweet.
Projection: Many times we find that although we say the right thing to others, it has no effect on them. We, then, begin to blame them and feel that they are not listening to us. But the words spoken with such an attitude do not have any effect on others.
Solution: When we speak to others esp. in a delicate situation we need to make sure that our words are filled with love. When we talk with love, our words will be filled with sweetness and we naturally speak only to the extent necessary. Then whatever we say will have its effect on others.
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