Happy Valentine's Day !
Just as a kite flies high, held only by a string, our intellect can rise to the heights of wisdom,
pulled only by the thread of Spiritual Love.
pulled only by the thread of Spiritual Love.
I AM Love - Realize love is what you ARE and that ‘love never dies’ !
- BK Mike George -
We seek it here, we seek it there, we look for love everywhere! We expect it to come to us, usually through another person. All our conditioning says it is something that happens to us. The mythology of our fables, legends and modern day entertainment industries say it is something we 'fall into'. And yet...and yet real love cannot be acquired, possessed or accumulated. It cannot be known when we think it comes from outside ourselves. The ultimate paradox is we are it. We ARE love. Each one of us is a source of love that has forgotten that 'love is what I AM'. Say it now "I AM love". Doesn't feel right does it? That's because it’s been so long since we knew and experienced ourselves in this true way. And yet we all know that the deepest trust and the purest love is known and experienced only when we give it, not take it.
As we give love in whatever way is appropriate, we are the ones to experience it first, on the way out. Falling in love is impossible. It is only infatuation, obsession with an external object which appears to fill a gap in ourselves. As soon as the object or person is remembered when they are not present and when they do not need to be remembered, it is simply attachment which, if sustained, will become a dependency. And attachment and dependency are not love. But you already know that...don't you?
What Is True Love? - A Spiritual Perspective -
Emotional love can flower into true love when the fire of emotions cools down and is substituted by a wiser and more mature relationship. True love needs a fresh and renewing atmosphere, without fears. When you feel spiritually full, you feel flowing over with pleasure, happiness, well being, and that state helps you to accept the one whom you love as they are, because from your fullness you give and share and you don't need or expect anything from the other. While you need something that you want the other to satisfy, you will have expectations and the fear that those needs might not be satisfied, and you will get frustrated more easily. When you feel like a being of peace, a being of love, a tranquil being, a being that is spiritually full and satisfied, your relationship with others is a relationship of sharing on a level on which fear is not generated. You are not asking for or taking anything from the other. An elevated sharing of love, of happiness, of knowledge, of wisdom takes place, in which you do not generate a dependency on the other.
Attachments and dependencies, fears and insecurity, block our experience of love, of peace, serenity, freedom, happiness. When you have a feeling of love that takes you to a state of joy, to wholeness, but then you attach yourself to the object of your love, be it a person, or a property, automatically the feeling changes into fear: you fear to lose the object of your love and, instead of feeling wholeness and enjoyment, you feel fear. Over time that attachment turns into a dependency and you start to become inwardly empty: that is, your energy level goes down. Love in its purest form is a like a spring that pours forth for the benefit of others. Learn the art of loving, being free and allowing to be. Pure, true, love is an unconditional love that flows freely. Do not cling (hold on to). Love does not cling.
“When you like a flower, you just pluck it. But when you love a flower, you water it daily…” - Buddha
Nurturing Loving Relationships - Tips from BK Shivani -
They are different from us, not wrong ...
1. People’s habits and sankars can be different from ours. We can see only through the filter of our sanskar, and we feel our perspective is right.
2. The other person’s perspective is different from us, let us not label it is wrong. What is right for us may not feel right to them. They are different from us, not wrong.
3. When we create a thought that someone is wrong, we are disrespecting them. When we understand that they are different, we respect them and their perspective.
4. When we accept the difference, then they also accept our sanskar. We respect each other and are open to understanding the other perspective and may be even ready to change ours.
Do not make choices just to please people and get their appreciation ...
1. When we become dependent on people’s approval for taking our decisions in life then we may take decisions which are not comfortable for us.
2. Different souls because of different past and present sanskars will always have different opinions in the same situation. It is not possible to get everyone’s approval on any choice we make.
3. If needed take advice and opinions from family and friends before taking a decision. But do not make choices to please people and get their appreciation.
4. The original qualities of the soul radiate when it is calm and stable. When we keep getting affected by other’s opinion, we will remain disturbed and this blocks our energy of love.
Two souls cannot have the same sanskars ....
1. If we copy the unpleasant behaviour of others, we block our beautiful qualities. Let us radiate our qualities in interaction with them.
2. Each soul has been on a long journey, creating different sanskars in each birth. Two souls cannot have the same sanskars. Let us not expect people to have the same qualities as us.
3. When we do something for someone, let us not feel that we are doing it for THEM. If we have negative thoughts of unwillingness, neither we nor they will be happy. We are doing it because this relationship and their happiness is important to us.
4. Sometimes people may not behave the way we want, let us consciously shift our mind to all their past pleasant behaviours. This enables us to see them in a positive perspective and then respond to the present situation in the right manner.
Last but not least .....
One of the most significant areas of importance in any human's life is that of relationships. Someone with very good, close, harmonious and loveful relationships with loved ones, friends, colleagues, etc. is normally considered very fortunate or lucky. But of all relationships, the first and most basic one is the one I have with myself. So, how good, close or deep is my relationship with myself? How well do I know myself? Am I my own friend? If I think over the last week or fortnight, how many of my reactions were unexpected or uncontrolled or basically not the right ones? How many reactions left me confused, sad, unenthusiastic, peaceless, depressed, negative in any other way or in short uncomfortable? If there have been several such situations, it is an indication that there are still things deep within me that I do not know.
Normally a friend is someone whose company I enjoy, for whom there is love and from whom there is some benefit. As in any worldly relationship, without knowing a particular person to the core I can never have a deep relationship with that person. As the phrase 'spiritual knowledge' implies, it is the knowledge of the spirit or the self. Only by knowing myself completely and having a good relationship with the self, can I channelize my inner potential that I have within myself - just as water from a river, when properly channelized, provides water for various purposes.
In any worldly relationship, if enough time and attention is not given to it and it is not nourished, it gets affected negatively. In the same way, though it's obvious that I have to spend a large chunk of each day involved in situations arising from my duties, routine activities, responsibilities and worldly relationships; my relationship with myself should also be given enough time and attention, so that it does not suffer. If I am not careful about that, my worldly life may use up my energy completely and discharge my inner battery. I need to find times in the day when I give time to my relationship with the self and recharge myself. The peace and happiness I long for internally will be obtained by having a good, positive relationship with the self.
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