Daily Positive Thoughts: May 06, 2013: Ego

Daily Positive Thoughts: May 06, 2013

The Great Sphinx of Giza

	Ego Ego is not just having a big head. Ego is present every time you feel any kind of fear, or hear yourself saying, "That's mine!". The truth tells us that nothing is 'mine' or 'yours', we are all trustees. So where there is ego, there is attachment, and where there is attachment there is fear, and where there is fear there cannot be love. Detach from everything, and you will banish ego, fear will be no more, only then can true love return, and our oldest friend happiness will feel it is then safe to make a re-appearance in your life.

Wisdom lies in taking only whatever is good.

I am usually so receptive to things outside that I take in everything,
both the good and the bad. The bad part of it, however, doesn't let me
be happy. I also notice that the more I take the negative things that
people are giving me, the more they tend to give. The solution lies in
taking only the positive things and ignoring the negative things. Even
if I do have to take the negative things, I need to take it in a
positive way. This is real wisdom through which I'll get the best out
of life.

Providing Emotional Support To Your Loved Ones

What do we do when friends and loved ones come to us for, and expect emotional support from us? Spirituality teaches us the right technique of providing emotional support - the technique of detached involvement, which is the technique of not being overawed, of not being affected ourselves by the emotions of others. If a friend, colleague or any loved one is upset and we also get upset (because we love them - that's what we normally say), we cannot provide them the necessary support or the assistance to see why they are reacting emotionally and how they might change the nature of their emotions by themselves. True love for someone would mean that I am able to provide them that. While being concerned is fine, but by becoming upset, seeing them upset simply aggravates the situation and adds fuel to their fire.

By remaining detached, we can be more effective in our ability to care, listen and help them think clearly about the situation, they find themselves in. Only if we are stable, and that can happen only when we are detached, will we be able to provide them stability. We can encourage and empower them to change their negative reaction to a more positive response, and thereby generate a healthier energy. If we become over-involved in someone else's problems, there is a risk that our own judgment will be affected negatively. This is why making decisions and choices under the influence of your own and others' emotions is normally ineffective.

Soul Sustenance

Internal And External Attachments (cont.)

We had explained some common examples of external attachments yesterday.

Some common examples of internal attachments are attachments to:

* your ideas,
* your beliefs,
* your opinions or viewpoints,
* your memories,
* a certain way of thinking
* a particular virtue/virtues or specialty/specialties,
* a particular power/powers,
* a particular sanskar/sanskars - either positive or negative, etc.

Whether the attachment is external or internal, the act of attaching is always internal. e.g. if you attach yourself to your job, you will say "my job". Your job is something external, but you hold on to it inside you -inside your consciousness.
(To be continued tomorrow...)

Message for the day

Bringing newness in dealing with life's situations brings happiness.

Expression: When there is the desire to find new ways of responding to life's challenges, unhappiness ends which in turn helps to fulfill one's highest potential. All it needs is the determination to adopt a fresh awareness. Thus burdensome thoughts that drain out positive energy are set aside. The quality of life itself becomes better.

Experience: I experience a lot of happiness when there is newness brought in responding to situations. The potential and the energy of the mind is channelised in a positive way so there is an experience of fulfillment and satisfaction. The mind is not caught up with negative or waste but is busy trying for the best solutions in all situations.